Last Thursday, during Love Therapy, Bishop James Marques and his wife Helena continued on the topic of ‘The Tools of Intelligent Love.’ In the sixth week, they focused on the measuring tape and the significance of measurement in both relationships and personal life.
Reflecting on how our choices and decisions shape our lives, the metaphor of the “measuring line” from Zechariah 2:1-2 holds meaningful relevance today.
“Then I raised my eyes and looked, and behold, a man with a measuring line in his hand. So I said, “Where are you going?” And he said to me, “To measure Jerusalem, to see what is its width and what is its length.”
The use of the measuring tape or measuring line serves as a tool to measure dimensions such as length, width and height. In the context of relationships, the measuring tape can represent the standards by which we assess our partners. Unfortunately, many people measure their relationships by superficial things such as physical appearance, wealth, or even sexual compatibility. However, these are not the true indicators of a strong, lasting relationship. What really matters are the deeper qualities: faith, integrity, and a commitment to building a life together, in accordance with, God’s principles.
When we talk about marriages, it is essential that people have a clear vision of what they expect from their partners and the relationship as a whole. Without a well-defined standard, it is easy to get lost along the way and prolong a relationship or remain in one without a clear purpose.
A successful relationship requires solid criteria and standards, including honesty, fidelity, character and respect.
The concept of “measuring” also applies to expectations within marriage. When spouses have differing expectations—whether it’s about household chores or personal priorities, such as one partner’s career—it’s crucial for both to adjust and find a balance.
The key to a lasting relationship lies in recognising the measures and standards both partners must follow. By using this emotional and practical “measuring tape,” couples can prevent relationships from becoming dysfunctional or based on unrealistic expectations. Therefore, assessing our own capabilities and adjusting the distance between what we desire and what we can actually give, is vital for achieving success in a relationship.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminar
Day and time: Thursday 27th March at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (outside London via conference)
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