How to spot a good friend

be a better friend, break down barriers, Friendship, your own flaws,

This week, we held the fifth session of our Inner Healing Seminar, where we spoke about friendships. One of the gifts we have as women is being sensitive and nurturing of others, which gives us the ability to be excellent friends.

However, we find that women who have been hurt in the past find it difficult to reach out to others and become friends with them. Well, a great way of healing oneself and overcoming the past is to go against these tendencies. Forget about your own flaws and make yourself vulnerable and available as a friend to someone else. It’s an act of faith that will break down barriers. Here are six basic points you should consider when choosing a friend (and how YOU should behave as a friend):

• She encourages you to be positive.
• She has good morals and inspires you to be a good person.
• She is happy with herself so she doesn’t depend too much on you.
• She doesn’t try to manipulate or force you to please her.
• She appreciates your talents and ideas.
• She is dependable and trustworthy.

To conclude, we all asked ourselves these vital questions:

Have I allowed myself to become stuck in unhealthy friendships? Do I have the courage to distance myself from relationships that aren’t good for me? Am I failing as a friend in any of these areas? What can I do to change myself to be a better friend? Do I drain the energy from my friends, or do I add to them? Am I an inspiration to my friends?