The Tools of Intelligent Love, discussed in the Love Therapy seminars, are principles and strategies aimed at strengthening relationships. They teach how to develop emotional maturity, effective communication and mutual respect, helping couples and singles to make conscious decisions in love.
Last Thursday Bishop James and his wife, Helena Marques continued the topic, revealing how we can use the “stake tool” for overcoming the challenges in relationships.
But what exactly is a stake, and what does it have to do with love?
A stake is a pointed stick or post usually driven into the ground. When we pitch a tent, a stake serves several key purposes – it secures the tent to the ground, provides structure, and allows the tent to be extended and enlarged. Without it, the tent could collapse and fail to provide proper shelter.
In the Bible, Isaiah 54:2 highlights the importance of a stake in spiritual preparation: “Enlarge the place of your tent, and let them stretch out the curtains of your dwellings; do not spare; lengthen your cords, and strengthen your stakes.”
This passage calls God’s people to prepare for blessings that have yet to arrive—to make room for what is to come by acting in faith before seeing the results. It’s an invitation to trust and step forward confidently, even when we cannot yet see the outcome.
Today, love is often governed by feelings and emotions, many of which are influenced by external factors like social media or unrealistic portrayals of romance. We see filtered photos, grand romantic gestures, and picture-perfect couples, leading many singles to feel discouraged. Some even settle for relationships that don’t truly fulfil them, simply to avoid loneliness. Instead of trusting that the right relationship will come, we may frequently complain about our partner based on what we see, rather than believing that our partner has the potential to change.
In these moments, faith is often the last thing on our minds. We may seek love based on our current feelings and what we observe. It is exactly this kind of faith that we need to experience love the way God intended. To “strengthen your stake” means to use your faith for your love life, even when it feels challenging, speaking life into our love lives before we see the results. The world says, “See it, then believe it,” but faith says, “Believe it, then see it.”
Faith calls us to look beyond our present circumstances and believe in the transformation ahead. Even when we can’t yet see the positive changes, we must declare victory in our relationships.
In the time of the Israelites, faith alone was enough to enlarge their tents and create space for the blessings God promised. If you are ready to take a step of faith in your love life, we invite you to join us at the next Love Therapy Seminar. Come and discover the transformative power of faith in your life.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminar
Day and Time: Thursday, 10th April at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (Outside London via conference)
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