Facing loss is inherently uncomfortable for human beings. Loss brings a painful sense of separation – whether it is the loss of a job, a relationship, an asset, or someone. This pain can manifest physically but often remains deep within the individual. Bereavement – or grief – specifically involves dealing with the loss of a loved one. It is a natural process of readapting to reality after the disruption of a significant bond, such as through death or a breakup. During this time, people may experience a range of emotions, including shock, apathy, sadness, guilt and helplessness.
According to the NHS, the grieving process can be divided into five stages. The first stage is denial, where one rejects the reality of the situation. This can lead to anger, the second stage, in which the grieving person feels that the situation is unfair. The bargaining stage follows, characterised by attempts to make “deals” with oneself, such as thinking, “If I act in a specific way, I will feel better.” This stage is often marked by a desire to reverse the loss. As individuals come to terms with reality, they may enter the depression stage, marked by a deep sadness over the loss. The final stage is acceptance, signifying coming to terms with loss and moving forward.
It’s important to understand that it’s impossible to go through life without experiencing some form of loss. Death is not merely a possibility; it is a reality. Therefore, learning to cope with it is fundamental for everyone. In practice, hiding from or numbing the pain doesn’t solve the issue. To overcome it, we must face our grief. It’s not that we will forget the people we love – they will always live in our memories – but we must not allow our lives to come to a standstill because of bereavement.
Recognising this human need, God sent His Spirit – the Holy Spirit – to comfort us. “Come to Me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28. In God, we find guidance, strength and power, and His Spirit helps us see things from a new perspective, alleviating our pain and empowering us to move forward.
Are you – or someone you know – experiencing this kind of loss? The first step could to join us on Sunday, 3 November, at your nearest Universal Church, for the Sunday of Life After Bereavement. We will meditate on God’s Word, pray and seek His presence, so that He may give us the willpower to overcome.
Event: Sunday of Life After Bereavement
Date and Time: Sunday, 3 November, at 10am (also at 7.30am)
Location: At your nearest Universal Church
https://www.leicspart.nhs.uk/mental-health/advice/the-5-stages-of-grief/
