“Marriage is a prison”, “Marriage is so outdated…” and “Married people aren’t happy.” Phrases like these have become increasingly common in today’s society, and unfortunately, statistics seem to reinforce this negative view. According to the Office for National Statistics, in 2022 alone, over 80,000 divorces were granted in England and Wales, with the average length of these failed marriages being approximately 12.9 years.
Surprisingly, these numbers are actually considered low compared to previous years. Legal experts attribute this decline to the introduction of the “Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act”, with new mandatory waiting periods, as well as the cost-of-living crisis. The fact that such a high number of divorces is considered below average only adds to people’s scepticism about marriage.
However, if we simply view marriage as the union of two people, we could assume that the problem lies in how these two individuals conduct their relationship, rather than with “marriage” itself. Renato Cardoso, author of “Bulletproof Marriage,” explains that “The problem is not a lack of love, but a lack of tools to solve the problems that come along with living together. People get married with virtually no ability to solve problems that arise with living together.”
Unreasonable behaviour, financial issues, addictions, and lack of communication are among the main reasons for divorce. But it’s crucial to uncover the root causes behind these conflicts. When two people get married, most of their problems stem from their conflicting past experiences. Therefore, getting to know the other person deeply and understanding their background is essential to understanding why certain behaviours occur.
For a marriage to work, each spouse must do their part. Our lives are the result of the seeds we plant and the decisions we make. If you want change, you must consider what you have planted. For instance, if you planted a lie, you have reaped distrust. In order to change your relationship, you need to plant truth and transparency. This requires a lot of effort and commitment from both parties, but there is no better investment. Plant these seeds, and we strongly believe that you will reap the countless benefits of marriage.
Living a healthy relationship has been proven to be beneficial for the spirit, soul, health and other areas of life. A study by the University of Copenhagen revealed that single men (including those who are divorced) are twice as likely to die prematurely than married men. This link between health and marital status may seem odd, but according to the study, it could be related to the importance of the social bond of marriage, which offers emotional, financial, and behavioural support. Another survey conducted with 2.5 million adults in the United States by the global analytics and advisory firm Gallup concluded that married people consider themselves happier than those who are single. As you can see, a good marriage and happiness walk side by side.
Knowing these facts, isn’t it worth investing in your relationship? If you don’t know where to start, let us help you! Our Love Therapy seminars are weekly sessions designed to help couples strengthen their relationship by learning how to communicate effectively and solve conflicts through the concept of “Intelligent Love.” Sounds intriguing? Join us this Thursday, 8pm at the Cathedral of Miracles to learn more about it.
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https://academic.oup.com/ije/article/42/2/559/737789
https://www.cnn.com/2024/02/09/health/marriage-happiness-wellness/index.html
