Previous Q & A Love life:

Q. After deciding to give my life to God, I gave up a lot of things including a relationship I thought would affect my spiritual life with God. With the path that I’m now on, I desire to be with a true man of God, but at times I feel as if I’m not worthy. Personally I don't think I’m ready for such a great blessing but I tell myself I’m preparing myself with God's help but then I feel as if I don't deserve a man of God as my partner. How can I overcome this?

A. No one deserves anything. We are all sinners and come short of God's mercy. You can't keep looking back to the kind of person you used to be.

If you do so then you do not believe in God's forgiveness. Believe that God has forgiven you and that He has given you a new life. By receiving a new life you should not look back but forward. What is the point in believing in God but not believing yourself? Jesus said, 'My just shall live by faith.' That is it!

How many Christians did evil things in the past? Many of us, if it wasn't for Jesus' death on that cross we would be doomed. No salvation whatsoever. I believe He has made you into a new young woman. Therefore He will lead you to a man of God. Just trust Him and at the right time things will happen.

Don't rush with your love life.
______________________________________________

Q. There are some guys in school who flirt with me a lot. Not in a gross way like some guys, but kind of cute and friendly. I know I shouldn’t be encouraging them because they don’t believe in God like me and they are into drinking and stuff that I don’t agree with. But it’s so hard not to laugh and be friendly back. I have to admit I really like the attention.

A. Temptation never seems dark and evil at first otherwise it would never work. You know that the worst food for your health is the most delicious and attractive to all your senses. 

Your senses are really being put through a fantasyland ride with these guys, and you’re just about ready to fall for one or both of them at any minute. It’s time to throw on the brakes, take a step back and decide just what is most important in your life. Look at the big picture. Who would you love to spend the rest of your life with? 

A man of God who is faithful to you, strong in faith, can encourage you and lead your family through tough times and be stable and humble in good times, one who will love you with God’s wisdom teaching him always how to love you best? Or… a cute guy who’s a smooth talker, who loves his nights out drinking with his buddies and could care less about the God you serve, who chases after his own pleasures and could easily leave you for the next pretty face that comes along? 

Believe me, the first guy really does exist, and there is one God has chosen for you.  Why throw away your heart for anyone less than that? Don’t be fooled by sweet-talk.  Turn your feelings and your eyes away from flirts, and keep your mind set on God above all.
_________________________________________

Q: How can you be sure that the relationship that you are in is from God.

A: We know when a relationship is from God when our relationship with God grows also. The person will share your faith and therefore both of you will be watchful not to fall into tempations or lead each other into sin.

Be sure that anyone who does not have a spiritual foundation will only be a distraction to you, and also, if you date by emotion and not intelligent faith, you can also be a distraction to the other person.

It's also wise to inform your Pastor when you begin dating, so he can help and guide you more.

 ______________________________________________
 

Q: I fall for guys so easily and it only happens when I'm desperate to have love. I get over it after I pray but is there something wrong with me if it keeps happening?

A: Your love life is a great blessing, but can also bring many problems if you we are not wise.

We are all born to be loved, God created love, but what many people fail to understand is that this need can only be fulfilled by God Himself first.

You cannot be naive and say, 'I will pray and get over it'. Before you even allow this emotion to take over your faith, you should have your eyes open and say, no I'm not going to waste my time and get hurt again.

God wants to bless you with man of God. Until you fully realise this and be patient, you will never get this man of God.  He can only bless you when you let go of emotions and use your faith. And, above all, let God be the one in your heart.

He is the only one that will never break your heart! Put Him first and know that you are important in His eyes. If you cannot do this then it is a clear sign that you have not truly had an encounter with the living God. You therefore need to fall to your knees and surrender your life to Him 100%.

 ________________________________________________

Q: There’s a young woman of God I have seen and I like her I can see she is in the faith. I want to talk to her but I have no idea of how to do so. I think she likes me as she smiles at me sometimes. What should I do?

A: It's very hard to answer this question as I know little about you or her. For example your ages, spiritual levels, etc. So, I advise you to speak to the Pastor of the branch you attend as he probably knows you both.

I am sure that by speaking personally to your Pastor, you will be able to get an answer.

Q.  There’s a guy who likes me in school, but I don’t like him all that much.  He keeps asking me out but I haven’t said yes, but I’m thinking of going out with him this weekend.  My friends think I’m crazy to say no to him because he’s like really cool and they think he’s cute so I think I’ll just do it anyway.  What do you think?

A: Here’s what I think:
•    Doing anything just because you’re pressured to by your friends, is wrong.
•    Going out with someone just because they’re considered “cool” and “cute” is nonsense.
•    Having such low self-esteem that you would consider letting a guy you don’t even like get romantically close to you, is sadder than you know.
Wake up!  Stop living for your friends and start to care about who you are as a young woman with a wonderful future that God has for you.  Believe in the best and don’t settle for junk.  And you can quote me on that.

 ____________________________________________

Q.  I started dating this guy in church and everything was great until we slept together.  Since then, I've been feeling bad about coming to church.  I feel guilty and though I've asked God for forgiveness, I still can't seem to face Him.  Please help.

A: You're going through something that many people go through when they begin in their faith.  Unfortunately not everyone reacts the same way you have by feeling guilty about their sin, and so they keep on living in that sin without any concern about it.

If you've asked God for forgiveness and you've repented (stopped making the smae mistake), then He has forgiven you.  Now it's up to you to forgive yourself and move on.  God is not like people who hold grudges, in fact, He says: "If my people will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land."

Avoid getting into situations that may lead you into the same sin and get back to your relationship with God, because He loves you unconditionally.

Back to categories